There’s a story behind everything… but behind all your stories is always your mother’s story… because hers is where yours begins.
– Mitch Albom, bestselling author and journalist
Growing up it always felt good when I got to use the phrase “I’m telling mom”. Once those magic words were uttered mom would come to the rescue: my heroine! But then with the roles reversed and my brother being the one shouting “I’m telling mom”, my knees would shake and I’d brace myself for my mom’s wrath. Despite the anger and resentment I’d feel at my mom having spanked me and after wishing bad things would happen to her, I’d find myself anticipating the next time she’d smile at me.
Having grown up and getting my own turn at being a mom, I’m sure I’ll gain a better understanding of what being a good mother entails. These Mama Lovin’ interviews have shed some light into the joys and challenges of motherhood. They’ve proved that’s nothing compares to a mother’s love.
My name is Lindiwe Gumede and I’m 30 years old. My son, Simphiwe Gumede, is 7 years old and my mother, Hilda Gumede, is 58 years old.
What is the best childhood memory you have of your mom?
We would sit for hours just watching movie after movie and then end up falling asleep on the couch.
What do you love the most about your mom?
She is a strong black woman. She hides away her pain from her loved ones. She’s not only a mom to me but to my friends and the community around. She is always there for me no matter what, she taught me to always go for it when I want something and to believe in myself.
What words would your mother say to signal the alarm that you were in trouble?
She never used to say much but there was ‘this look’ that she would give me and I knew deep down that I am in trouble.
What words do you say to your son when he drives you mad?
The funny thing is I’m also not a woman of many words, when my son drives me mad I also give him ‘this look’ and he knows that he has to stop.
Name a moment where Simphiwe did something so funny you could not punish him or be mad.
My son hates to take a bath at night. One night I asked him to go take a bath, he went to the bathroom and came out a minute later. ”Simphiwe, I asked you to take a bath” I said. He replied “No mommy, I already took my bath at school. The teacher said we can take a bath after school and I did”. All I could do was just to laugh.
Is there a moment where you looked at your son and thought ‘Mom was right’? Tell us about it.
It doesn’t matter how old your children are, a mom never stops worrying about her child.
What do you love most about being a mom?
Coming back from a long stressful day at work and just seeing his cute smile and him running to me screaming “Mommy…. Mommy”, it just makes everything okay. It’s fulfilling to see this little being growing up, his first word, his first step… Not forgetting his first day at school: I cried the whole day asking myself if he’ll be okay.
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