Mama Lovin’: Lindiwe Gumede

There’s a story behind everything… but behind all your stories is always your mother’s story… because hers is where yours begins.
– Mitch Albom, bestselling author and journalist

Growing up it always felt good when I got to use the phrase “I’m telling mom”. Once those magic words were uttered mom would come to the rescue: my heroine! But then with the roles reversed and my brother being the one shouting “I’m telling mom”, my knees would shake and I’d brace myself for my mom’s wrath. Despite the anger and resentment I’d feel at my mom having spanked me and after wishing bad things would happen to her, I’d find myself anticipating the next time she’d smile at me.

Having grown up and getting my own turn at being a mom, I’m sure I’ll gain a better understanding of what being a good mother entails. These Mama Lovin’ interviews have shed some light into the joys and challenges of motherhood. They’ve proved that’s nothing compares to a mother’s love.

Lindiwe with Simphiwe

Lindiwe with Simphiwe

My name is Lindiwe Gumede and I’m 30 years old. My son, Simphiwe Gumede, is 7 years old and my mother, Hilda Gumede, is 58 years old.

What is the best childhood memory you have of your mom?
We would sit for hours just watching movie after movie and then end up falling asleep on the couch.

What do you love the most about your mom?
She is a strong black woman. She hides away her pain from her loved ones. She’s not only a mom to me but to my friends and the community around. She is always there for me no matter what, she taught me to always go for it when I want something and to believe in myself.

What words would your mother say to signal the alarm that you were in trouble?
She never used to say much but there was ‘this look’ that she would give me and I knew deep down that I am in trouble.

What words do you say to your son when he drives you mad?
The funny thing is I’m also not a woman of many words, when my son drives me mad I also give him ‘this look’ and he knows that he has to stop.

Name a moment where Simphiwe did something so funny you could not punish him or be mad.
My son hates to take a bath at night. One night I asked him to go take a bath, he went to the bathroom and came out a minute later. ”Simphiwe, I asked you to take a bath” I said. He replied “No mommy, I already took my bath at school. The teacher said we can take a bath after school and I did”. All I could do was just to laugh.

Is there a moment where you looked at your son and thought ‘Mom was right’? Tell us about it.
It doesn’t matter how old your children are, a mom never stops worrying about her child.

What do you love most about being a mom?
Coming back from a long stressful day at work and just seeing his cute smile and him running to me screaming “Mommy…. Mommy”, it just makes everything okay. It’s fulfilling to see this little being growing up, his first word, his first step… Not forgetting his first day at school: I cried the whole day asking myself if he’ll be okay.

Truck loads of LoVe…
Amandla Kwinana

Mama Lovin’: Judy Sibanda

God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.
– Jewish Proverb

As this month draws to an end may we continue to appreciate and treasure our mothers. Being a new mother and having spent the first couple of days of my son’s life with the women of my family, I have a new found respect and adoration for mothers. It’s no easy task remaining patient, keeping a smile on your face and laughing when you get pee all over your clothes.

No matter how old we may be, a mother’s hug and reassuring words are by far the most meaningful. Let’s take the time to let our mamas know just how special they are to us; during Mother’s day, Mother’s month and especially on ordinary days when they least expect it.

I’m Judy Sibanda, 28 years old. My son, Lindokuhle Sibanda, is 8 years old and my mom, Thembi Radebe, is 51 years young.

Judy and Lindo

Judy and Lindo


What is the best childhood memory you have of your mom?

My mother was always a young active lady; to this day people think we are siblings. I remember us always sprinting, whenever there was an empty road before us the words “on your marks, get set… Go” would ring and my mother would sprint away and there was little me, desperately trying to catch up with her.

Turns out she was one of the top sprinters during her high schools years and I soon followed in her footsteps. She moulded me into a top 100m, 200m, 400m and relay sprinter.

What do you love the most about your mom?
She’s such a Lady… Oh My Gosh, too much of lady sometimes and nothing is ever out of place. She speaks with such poise and her walk is never rushed. She truly is a sight for sore eyes.

What words would your mother say to signal the alarm that you were in trouble?“Kanti what’s wrong with you”…. Which was usually followed up with a slap.

What words do you say to your son when he drives you mad?
“Kanti what’s wrong with you”… Terrible, I know.

Name a moment where Lindo did something so funny you could not punish him or be mad:
I had just bought a brand new LG 40” LED Plasma screen. Lindo woke up in the wee ours of the morning to watch his cartoons… At 10am I decide to wake up and make breafast and join him on the couch to watch cartoons.

I notice that my screen looks weird but it doesn’t register until an hour later that the screen has been tampered with. I move closer to the screen for a closer inspection and to my horror, I find water streaks all over the plasma.

Livid, I ask what happened… shame he looked so petrified and meekly replied “Mommy, the TV was full of so much dust, I wanted to wash it for you”.

Is there a moment where you looked at your son and thought ‘Mom was right’? Tell us about it:
Mom was right about alot of things, but I never gave her the satisfaction of admitting to anything just so that I could avoid hearing her say “I TOLD YOU SO”. That said I can’t exactly pin point anything. I’m stubborn like that.

What do you love most about being a mom?
Oh man… Being loved unconditionally! That smile he gives me all day, everyday, makes me feel like I’m doing something right. You could shout or punish your child and a few minutes later they will still come for a snuggle. It’s the little things, like the drawings from school for Mother’s Day and Valentine’s Day.
There is no greater love than a child’s love.

Judy, Thembi and Lindo

Judy, Thembi and Lindo

Gallons of LoVe…
Amandla Kwinana

Mama Lovin’: Chulumanco Nqabeni

I know what it’s like to be alone in the world. I also know what it’s like to experience the joy of childbirth. Not only have I had my own children, but when I was young I was a midwife and watched many women joyfully bring their children into the world. Children are such a blessing and gift from God, sometimes we forget to thank God for their mothers and their role they play in moulding and shaping these tiny little lives.
– Albertina Sisulu, wife of Walter Sisulu

Being a mother comes with great responsibility and blessings. Now that I am expecting my first child I am filled with anticipation (I’m also a bit scared, I have to admit) at being not just a mother, but a good one. And having celebrated Mother’s Day, this is the perfect month to pay tribute to the good mothers of South Africa and also find out more about motherhood.

Chulu with her son, Khaya

Chulu with her son, Khaya

I am Chulu, 25 years. I am a mother to Manqoba Khaya Motaung (4 years) and daughter to Lulu Zondwa Mgqamqo-Nqabeni, aged 52.

What is the best childhood memory you have of your mom?
I recall my mom driving me to and from school; the music and the trip were always enjoyable.

What do you love the most about your mom?
Her sweet, sensitive nature. She always puts others before herself.

What words would your mother say to signal the alarm that you were in trouble?
She would call me by my full name.

What words do you say to your son when he drives you mad?
I call his name. He can sense by my tone that things aren’t right.

Name a moment where your son did something so funny you could not punish him or be mad.
Someone swore around him, and he knows he’s not allowed to swear, then he ran to me and told me what the person said. I couldn’t help but laugh because he was quite strategic about having the opportunity to swear.

Is there a moment where you looked at your son and thought ‘Mom was right’? Tell us about it.
She said I’d only understand when I have children of my own, boy was she right.

What do you love most about being a mom?
Everything! I love that when I’m at my lowest, I’m always his hero. He thinks I’m the most beautiful person in the world; he trusts that I can make anything and everything happen; he takes the time out to grab a pretty flower whenever he sees one and gives it to me. He is truly awesome. I’m the lucky one by far!

Tons of LoVe…
Amandla Kwinana

Chulu and her mom, Zodwa

Chulu and her mom, Zodwa